This is a technique used by psychopaths, and toxic parents, it is a subtle form of emotional abuse in which a person will behave or communicate strategically in order to characterize you falsely to other people or even to yourself. Ponder, how is it that we are characterized? Are we not characterized by how others talk to us and interact with us? And over the course of our life time does this not communicate to us who we are? Not only the interactions we have but the recurrence of those interactions? Doesn’t that create our ego, or false sense of self? Who we errantly believe ourselves to be?